Teenage sex is the norm of the day. In the subdivision where I reside, there are many teenagers (age 15 to early twenties) who were involved in various sexual activities. Male teenagers are more vocal about their “sexcapades,” and most of the times brag about it with their peers (at one time, I heard one of them talking about the girls that he brought home through texting and offered his friend to bring him one). I also observe that many of teenage girls in our neighborhood were pregnant or already have a child or two and were eventually wed with their boyfriends.
The examples of incidents that I mentioned, though not enough to be taken as representative scenario in the whole country, can be used to show how active the Filipino youth our with their sexuality, especially of those young people residing in urban and suburban areas. The whole problem with those scenarios are that they often lack the information and the proper guidance regarding sex, pregnancy and the risks of their sexual activities.
Young Filipinos were being left out while institutions of our society were battling one another regarding the Reproductive Health Bill. The solons, the Church, and civil societies were missing the real problem entirely.
In our country, sex is still a touchy topic. Because of that and the fact that many Filipino parents (specifically the poor) were still ignorant with many information regarding sex and sexually transmitted diseases, topics regarding sex were not eagerly talked about in our homes and most parents were mum about such things.
On the other hand, the Church is viewed as too moralizing when it comes talking about sex. Meanwhile the government is still too inexperienced regarding this matter and its proposed Sex Education Curriculum proved to be more dangerous than helpful.
With that, our teenagers were left in the hands of the media and their peers. The problem with our media is that it is too commercialized. Local media giants are too engrossed in raking in lots of cash, failing in their duty to educate and inform the public. In current state of things, sex and shows that shows sexy bodies and suggestive scenes equates to loads of cash. Thus in the name of money, such shows and advertisements will continue (remember Frenzy Condom and the new show Banana Split).
Teenage pregnancy comes with many complications, for both mother and child. Teenagers were usually mentally ill prepared to rear and care for a child. They will be having harder time to carry the responsibilities as opposed to mature people. Some studies also reveled that babies from teenage moms are more prone to illness than those born from mature mothers. This is compounded by the fact that they will be financially ill equipped. Teenage parents usually stop their schooling and focus their time with their baby.
So, instead of wasting their energy and time regarding the RH Bill, why don’t all the solons, the Church, and other groups focus their attention with the Filipino youth? The problems with misguided teenage sex are teeming with problems and it does not only affect the present but its effects will be felt to the next generation of Filipinos.
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i call them “unmarried women who have sex.”
okay, i’ll stop now. this was just too funny.
*grabs popcorn*
I call 4 more posts on splitting hairs before we graduate to name-calling!!
i’ll see your 4 and raise you :D
“now let me tell you what *I* stand for: the woman, and only the woman, has any say over how she wants to enjoy her sexuality. should she want to be celibate, should she want to go boinkity-boink-boink-boink with hundreds of men, that is nobody’s business but hers.”
wow! what a noble sincere manifestation Jester.
What if they’ll do the same, say with you because you are a DOM with unfettered libido, nope just a hypothetical scenario Jester, but at your malicious instigation, say with the instrumentation of money you managed to make them acquiesced with your lascivious but calculated advances, are you then not infringing over thier rights as persons?
Woman is a mystery we shall never penetrate, gentlemen.
Law and Justice, War and Peace, maybe. But woman. forget it. You can’t even get close!
at danilo’s 4:06: was the sex consensual? if yes, then no, there was no infringement.
come on, danilo, don’t tell me that unmarried women have sex only because of money or profit. is it not possible that an unmarried woman will want to have sex with me because she finds me attractive enough to take me into her bed?
(naks, wishful thinking wahaha)
Before the next persons decide to purchase prophylactics or recommend prophylactic use to adolescents (or to anyone for that matter), here’s something that’ll bring you closer to making informed choices. The false sense of security is something that needs to be pointed out.
“Condom manufacturers in the United States electronically test all condoms for holes and weak spots. In addition, FDA requires manufacturers to use a water test to examine samples from each batch of condoms for leakage. If the test detects a defect rate of more than 4 per 1,000, the entire lot is discarded. The agency also encourages manufacturers to test samples of their products for breakage by using an air burst test in accordance with specifications of the International Standards Organization.”
That’s four (4) leaking condoms allowed in every batch of 1,000 — how many thousands (?) of leaking condoms circulating around the world does that mean? And this is a risk the public is willing to ignore, even among those in AIDS prevention programs?
When the people pushing for HB 5043 say “accurate and complete information,” I hope that includes telling students and the public in general about things like this.
Btw, this came from the US FDA website.
http://www.fda.gov/fdac/features/1997/197_aids.html
as a QC specialist, sunnyday, let me say that 4/1000 (0.4%) is a pretty stringent criterion.
Dear Jon Limjap,
Yep, it is true that teenage pregnancy also happens in provinces. Marami nga doon ang nag-aasawa ng maaga.
In the RH Bill, tama ka uli’t na hindi lang teenage pregnancy ang binibigyang pansin ng batas na ito. Maraming maraming bagay (gaya nga ng nakasaad na title nito na “Reproductive Health Bill”). The message that I want to convey is that na sana bigyan ng mga institusyon ng lipunan ang kabataan. Ang nagiging problema kasi ay napapabayaan ang karamihan sa kanila, at yun nga marami ang nabubuntis sa kanila sa ‘di tamang panahon.
@Ishmael
I think the Sangguniang Kabataan was originally envisioned to be such “youth institution”, but it only ended up teaching local youth leaders the corruption game too early. SK is nothing but basketball leagues and jersey procurement corruption. Nakakasuka.
@Jon
Yep, I totally agree na ang SK ay para maging youth institution. Unfortunately, ‘yung mga pondo nila ay hawak ng mga mayor at iba pang locaL officials sa bayan nila.
Ang lumalabas tulo ay ginagawa na lang na gatasan ng pulitiko ang SK.
Ganito kasi sa Pilipinas, puro vision pero walang action.
Who is to decide the morality of the youth? “Convention doesnt dictate morality, your conscience does.” But on which values/beliefs are the youth’s conscience based on? Definitly not on old ideologies and assumptions.
The Youth believes We control our lives. Hello Youtube? NOT decades-old beliefs. Naniniwala ba kami sa views nyo about sex? Baka hindi. Naniniwala ba kami sa views nyo on marriage? Baka hindi.
Sabi nga ng Rivermaya, “Kung gusto niyo kaming sigawan, bakit hindi niyo subukan? Lalo nyo lang kaming hindi maiiintindihan.”
At isa pa, ang matatanda, nag-uubos ng oras on how to curtail sexual activities of the youth. Bakit ba kayo obsessed sa sex?
Ang dami-daming issues na dapat pag-usapan regarding youth and nag-uubos kayo ng oras sa isang bagay na sing-natural ng pagkain.
E paano kaya kung ma-obsess kayo sa paghahanap ng paraan para mas lumawak ang isipan ng kabataan, o mas ma-enganyo ang kabataan maki-alam sa pamamalakad ng bansa. O kaya totoong youth empowerment.
Please dont insist on us your own hypocrisies. We dont need it.
Teenage Sex is stupidity. If the youth is like this I think will forfeit my standing as a young citizen. Yeah, sexual exploration will never be the key to wisdom. It will only lead us to overpopulation, family rejection and worst, early parenthood. Sex? Urges? Need? I don’t consider these three things as my personal need I consider it as a hindrance in reaching my goals, My Success! My brother is already a flop and a victim of early parenthood and I Don’t want to be like him. A model? No! He’s my reverse inspiration. I’m making sure that I’m not gonna end up like him, a failure!
Should I speak in general? No! I believe that there are many like my brother! And few with Perspective like mine. I just want this message to reach those pathetic and low life kindred of mine, driven, urged, persuaded by their desires.
Sex is not a thing, a trend yet it is a wormhole that can transport us to dark room with no light at all… Therefore total blindness. Sex? I thought of it as gift after marriage but with the current situation, I’m thinking, it’s just another daily habit that when done, may give us temporary satisfaction and lifetime full of regrets…
I’ve heard of many and yet my words are rejected…
~A Child
I, as a youth, am speaking for my own generation. And it is a great disappointment seeing the Hope, BE the downfall of the Fatherland.
One way or another we will solve this!
But it’s hard controlling the teenage population itself! The more things done the more errors will be committed.
Bravo Concerned Grader!
Thank God at meron pang mga teenager na tulad mo na hindi naniniwala sa “new age” beliefs about sex. Yes, sex is a gift from God and as a gift, we should “use” it with due respect to the Giver.
But then, your voice is just a tiny one dahil sa panahon ngayon ay napaka-fashionable na ng tratuhin ang sex as instrument of pleasure. Tingin pa ng marami na liberating na sumunod sa animal instincts natin about sex. Sadly, they are not as liberated as they think they are. They are imprisoned in pleasing theirselves.
Maraming matatawa sa sasabihin ko but this age is a dark age. More and more people are submitting themselves to the Enemy by surrendering their minds and body to sin in exchange of empty pleasure.
Sa totoo mas mahalaga pa ang bagay na ito kesa sa mga problema ng mundo.
Sana ang mga tulad mo ang umayos sa nasirang henerasyon.
May God bless you.
Thank you Ishmael!
True, teenagers nowadays are subjecting themselves to sex, not minding their faith but losing control and gaining nothing but pointless pleasure. I don’t know why they want sex so much that it gives them not the image of liberation but the image of savagery. I hope some of the youth are gaining or having the realization that sex is not the answer to sexual needs. Temptations huh? Is sex really the answer to sexual exploration? I think not. What is sex education to them is the actual thing, to have sex in order to know, COMPLETE STUPIDITY!
What is in the youth of today that made them savage and uncivilized? I’m completely confused of what is happening now. Why? How? I can’t figure things out! It’s like the mentality of the youth is altered.
Sin? What is sin when there is no one to be tempted? I don;t give in to sin, I’m patient enough to endure it and make it give up on me. I don’t consider sin an option, it’s just another dirt on my way waiting to be stepped on. I kick it! lol!
Nice!
concerned grader,.
Yeah, in the end of the day, its all about self control. Another thing is that teenagers are left to their own. I think that parent-children communication is lacking nowadays. Kaya yung mga kawawang bata ay kung anu ano na lang ang ginagawa tulad ng sex, drugs, pagpapabaya sa school.
A true story
Tomorrow Inshaallah we muslims will celebrate our Eid al adha. But one Tausug lady is suffering befalls into a calamity becuase of so called fornication. 3 days ago she give birth to a baby girl in a hospital here in dubai.the pakistani man whom she said the father wont acknowledge. He said she have lots of boyfriends. 3 months before that she came to the Islamic information center asking help from the filipino balik islam community. even if we used our emotion to help her its still a lots lots of money to generate to buy an airfare ticket back to manila. this is dubai. lots of kabayan here needs help bec of visa things, jobs, etc. one cheaper solution as another one suggestedd is to produce a fake marriage certificate from Phil. We will give the money 1thousand AED and she will produce it. (even though its totally wrong). she didnt do it. Fast forward >>> after this season of eid a few days of nursing the baby the authorities will take the baby from her and bring it to institution. she will go to jail minimum of 3 months (with or without lashes only
God knows) and will never see the baby again.
who’s to blame? not the church, this girl is from a muslim background. not islam fornication is absolutely prohibited. Poverty? society?
>Ishmael
Agree! I guess the only answer is open communication with parents. Me, I talk about sex with my parents all the time, I often take sex as a joke, as something funny when done. Lol
>moe
I don’t really get the picture… Sorry…
concerned grader, i suppose you’re legit from the way you’ve written your arguments. just one thing, don’t be harsh on your brother. thank him for giving you the valuable lesson on the inability to control one’s urges. not everyone has that opportunity.
i’m just concerned with the way you put yourself in the high ground–at the expense of your brother. that’s exactly the reason why most people here don’t like the anti-RH comments. right now, what your brother needs from you is not condemnation but compassion.
true, I do thank him for giving me the warning… On how one wrong doing can cause the downfall of others. I do thank him…
But up till now he didn’t change at all. Things are still the same when he’s around. He is an undergrad, jobless (laborer, most of the time) and partially unwanted. Why? The answer would be: He didn’t change, He didn’t realize, He never woke himself up to reality.
Why I do this to him? If words can’t hit him? what else? So that leads me to action. I’m not harsh, but I will be if I have to. I suppose I’m now cold towards him, I look at him as a low person, Pity? NO. Respect? He has to give one to earn one. Rejection? I little bit. I guess I am what I am. And I’m still workin’ on myself.
I’m a child of a normal family
Challenged by poverty
Rated “low” on the eyes of others
With parents struggling for money
I don’t know how to judge myself anymore…
Sometimes hope is very translucent…
But I’m firm and I will continue being firm…
Keep your head high up! ^^
Concerned grader,
An open communication is the right thing. As a believer that sex is one of the wonderful gift of God, I do believe that it should talk about openly. The more we avoid talking about it, the more that the teens will be confused.
Halimbawa sa sex organs, bakit ba tayo ilag na ilag na sabihin yung parte ng katawan nating iyon? Parte naman ng katawan natin iyon, hindi natin dapat ikahiya.
Agree!
Teenagers nowadays are more discreet about sex… The more they are silent the more they get interested about it. Why be shy about the organ.It still is a reality…
All this talk gives me a head ache ^^
with regards to the words of Ishmael about the SK…
there is always an exception and that makes great differences. SK is an institution that should have to be like the superior ones. In vision, action, and the task of the monitoring room. clever amendments are necessary for the rehabilitation of the SK Constitution and By Laws so it can engender its utmost effectiveness to its people, para hindi na nakasusuka..
the flaws in the LGC of 1991 of the SK makes it prone to such discrepancies that Ishmael says, so, the flaw should have to be cleared, not the institution.